A Blog Involving Taylor Swift

Sorry about being all over the place with my blogs. Been bouncing from book snippets to movie reviews and now to a song review...sort of. I am actually going to use a new popular song to make a point. It is the point of "If I will do it for you, I will do it to you". And the song is "You Belong To Me" by Taylor Swift. Heres the vid.



So there is a song like this almost every year. The "She doesn't love you like me" song. Sorry to any hardcore Taylor Swift fans but it's not an original concept. However, lets treat it like it is for a moment. This song (and vid) is about a girl(Taylor) who is pining away for this guy "friend" of hers(Cute blond boy). In the song, Taylor makes the case that the cute blond boy's current girlfriend doesn't "get" him like Taylor does and she would be a much better match. And you see in the video how he communicates with her. Markers and poster-board. So sweet! They sit on a bench and he brushes her hair back, then his evil girlfriend shows up and ruins it!

But slam on the brakes here.

Lets ignore the fact that the boy is cute, the girlfriend is evil, and the romantics of it all, and lets see this situation for what it is. This is a boy who, for whatever reason, is unhappy with the relationship he is in. This doesn't mean the girl is evil or the issue he is dealing with is catastrophic. Relationships are complex and have their low points. But instead of dealing with the issue with his current girlfriend, he finds another girl to listen to his problems. (RED FLAG!) If I were Taylor, I would walk away as soon as this boy began weeping to me about his girlfriend. Harsh? Maybe. But I am actually doing He and I, a favor. Because even though the guy ends up with Taylor, what is keeping him from doing the same thing with her ?. A real man will not whine about his relationship to another girl, regardless of how horrible it is with his girlfriend. Because REAL MEN will protect a girl's honor. Even after they break up, a real man won't give in to bad-mouthing her to other girls or even getting sympathy from other girls.

So in the end, Taylor gets this boy. But what keeps him from doing the same thing when they have difficulties in their relationship? Because it comes back around to if I will do it with you I will do it to you. If this boy wasn't grounded enough in integrity to stick to one girl per relationship, then whats going to stop him from doing it again?

The reality is if you allow a boy to talk to you about intimate relationship woes, thinking that you are romantically connecting with him, then you are causing him to be emotionally cheating on his girlfriend. And if he does leave her to be with you, there is nothing stopping him from doing the same thing to you.