Answering The Question

There is a question we have all asked since we were very young. The question is different for boys and girls. However, It is a question close to our heart and the way we seek to answer this question shapes our lives. John and Stasi Eldredge describes this idea of the Question in the book Captivating.

"You see every little girl- and every little boy- is asking one fundamental question. But they are different questions, depending on whether you are a little boy or a little girl. Little boys want to know, Do I have what it takes? All that rough and tumble, all that daring and superhero dress up, all of that is a boy seeking to prove that he does have what it takes. He was made in the image of a warrior God. Nearly all a man does is fueled by his search for validation, that longing he carries for an answer to his Question.

Little girls want to know, Am I lovely? The twirling skirts, the dress up, the longing to be pretty and to be seen--that is what it's all about. We are seeking an answer to our Question."
The tragic part of it all is that many of us have not received an answer to our question or we have received a negative response. Usually this is because it was not answered properly when we were growing up. This is what Stasi had to say.

"When I was a girl of maybe five years old, I remember standing on top of the coffee table in my grandparents' living room abd singing my heart out. I wanted to capture attention--especially my father's attention. I wanted to be captivating. We all did. But for most of us, the answer to our Question when we were young as, 'No, there is nothing captivating about you.' Get off the coffee table. Nearly all a woman does in her adult life is fueled by her longing to be beautiful, to be irreplaceable, to have her Question answered, 'Yes!'."

Sometimes though in the search to have our Question answered, Girls look to boys or guys to answer their question for them. They may look to romance and a relationship to tell them "I am worth something." And while this may satisfy temporarily there will always be an emptiness when we try to fill our empty hearts with infatuation and fleeting relationships.

I am not saying relationships are bad but when we use them to answer such a vital question, we get hurt. Its like trying to fit a square into a circle shaped hole. It won't work.

God is the only one who can give us the ultimate and fulfilling answer to this question. He made us, he knows our desires and our dreams. He tells his daughters You are lovely because you are mine. Let me just speak that over my female readers right now. You are lovely. You are beautiful. Every single one of you are precious and dear to God's heart. Let God answer your question. He is the only one who can fill your heart completely.

P.S. I love you all and know that I am praying for you!