So there is this awesome author. His name is Justin Lookadoo. He wrote this amazing piece on how guys usually communicate on a different level than girls. I found this to be xxxtra-cool because its not some "Dr Laura" type telling you how men think. (I am sure the lady doctors mean well but doods know doods). This is a guy telling you how guys think. So here it is. Enjoy =)
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Guys and girls speak totally different languages. Yeah, we use the same words, but the internal dictionarythat we each have places meanings on those words...totally different.
Girls, people are telling you all the time that guys will lie to you. Heck, I tell you that all the time. And alot of them will. But there's a bigger problem, and that is the differences in the way we talk and listen.
So I am going to change everything.
Let me be the one to say this to you ladies...guys don't lie to you. When they tell you something,they mean it. They just don't mean it like you take it. When a guy says. "You make me feel different than anyone else in this world," he means it. He just doesn't mean it like you take it. Ladies, you think he said that because you are soul mates. No, that's not what's going on. See, guys are logical thinkers, and in his mind it's true. You are different than Kara, so you will make him feel different than she does. And Erika is different from you and Kara, so she will make him feel different.
When a guy says "I love you," he means it. He just doesn't mean it like you take it. It;s not that you are the only one for him, forsaking all others...noooo, that's not what he said. When a dude says, "I love you," ladies, its true, he loves you. And what he means is, "I love my dog. I love my car. I love a number three super-sized. And oh yeah, baby, I love you too." This isn't a pyramid with you on the top, then the car and the dog, and then the number three. Nope , you're all on the same level. With time and God, your status in the lineup will chance. But remember that what he is saying and what you are hearing are different things.
Today, listen to people talk. See if you can start recognizing the things that guys say and what girls hear. It will be hard at first; After all, it's a different language. Pretty soon you will have it down, and you will be able to communicate without setting yourself up for heartbreak.
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So there it is. These words are invaluable because Justin is giving us girls insight into the guys. He may be a bit blunt but he is just telling us the truth because he wants today's ladies to avoid getting hurt. I'd call that good advice.
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